The drama of "Dear Devotion" is a wave of discussion, and the love of Han Shangyan and Jubilee also rises and falls, affecting the audience's thoughts.
In addition to eating dog food, this drama reflects the truth of love and human nature, but it is more worthy of our consideration. The girl has summed up three.
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The original family determines a person’s view of love
Han Shangyan and Jubilee are completely different in character, depending on their native family. Han Shangyan’s parents died young and lived with his stepmother.
There is no complete family, no father and mother love, even if the stepmother is good to him, his heart is difficult to complete.
Growing up in such a frustrated native family, Han Shangyan is sensitive to inferiority. His appearance is very cold, in fact, the way to protect himself, only this hard and cold shell can make him look strong.
He didn't talk about love at the age of 30, and he has a lot of concern with his personality.
What does love mean? It means opening yourself and exposing your own discomfort and exhaustion to each other.
In addition to this, there is a fusion of life and emotional distraction.
These are the desires of Han Shangyan, but they can't do it.
In the opposite year, she was born in a happy family, her parents' love, good education, and her own strength, which made her heart full of confidence and confidence.
Therefore, in the face of Han Shangyan, in the face of this unreachable idol, she can pursue it in desperation, even if the moth is burning, she can lose.
It is also reasonable for Han Shangyan to fall in love with the Jubilee, because the light and heat in the Jubilee is what he longs for.
His relationship with his grandfather has been a little nervous. Grandpa doesn't understand what he does. He doesn't know how to accept him.
However, in the following year, there was a kind of magic power. The moment of getting along with the grandfather, the gentleness and understanding of the people reflected the Han Shangyan.
It can be said that the following year made up for the missing piece of the Korean business. In the following year, she got enough love from childhood and saw the loneliness and exhaustion of Han Shangyan. She wanted to share it for him.
Although the Jubilee Year is smaller than the Korean business, it actually plays the role of the inner parents of the Korean business. In fact, the original family will affect a person's view of love, and will also affect the direction of love.
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Women take the initiative to get a chance to be happy
Traditional education always tells women that in love, if you take the initiative, you will lose the price, and men will not cherish it.
This is not the case. Proactive does not mean losing, but you are the leader of the story.
To be honest, I admire the following year, met Han Shangyan, fell in love at first sight, she can face the feelings of her own heart, and strive to pursue what they want.
If the average girl meets her idol, she dares to hide her like in her heart and feel that she is not worthy of it.
However, in the following year, in order to get close to the Korean business, she can often send a message to him not to care if the other party responds. She can find ways to see his game and express her favorite...
In the end of the leap year, she was able to get along with Han Shangyan and get happiness. She deserved it.
I feel that many women should learn from the following year. If they encounter what they like, they will fight for it. If they have won it, there will be no regrets even if they fail.
I never feel that a woman who strives to win herself is cheap, it is brave and powerful.
Many women often imagine that their prince will ride a white horse, but love is not waiting, but is trying to come.
If you encounter a good one, let the other party see your own strengths and express your inner feelings. The rest will be handed over to the other party.
In love, the most fear is regret and miss.
Some time ago, look at the "signal of the heart", in the signal cabin, there are two girls are interested in the same male student, one of the girls is very active, will take the initiative to talk with the other party, will hint at the other party's own mind.
The other girl, just sitting in the corner, silently watching the boy. What is the final outcome?
This boy is of course closer to a more active woman.
In fact, a lot of love is waiting to be spent, women do not always care about initiative and passive, may wish to be brave once and for all, maybe the next Korean business is yours.
03
In love, respect and communication are more important than love.
In this drama, in addition to paying attention to the Korean business and the leap year, I also noticed the pair of Wang Hao and Ai Qing.
Ai Qing loved Wang Hao at first sight, and later entered the team and fought side by side with him.
After the two people were together, they also had a very sweet time. Later, the breakup was because Wang Hao’s predecessor gave birth to a child. Because the child’s ear had problems, his predecessor was unable to raise him, and he brought the child to him. Wang Hao accepted the child without saying anything.
From the father's point of view, Wang Hao is a good father, in order to take care of his daughter, at the expense of his career and life.
But from the perspective of love, he is not responsible enough.
Many years later, Ai Qing recalled this relationship. She said that the breakup was not because Wang Hao had a child, but that Wang Hao had never discussed with her.
In fact, it can be seen that Ai loves Wang Hao very much, but Wang Hao only thinks about himself, but never considers the feelings of love.
In feelings, respect and communication are more important than love.
Imagine if Wang Hao and Ai Qing were negotiating at the time, Ai Qing would accept this child, and two people may have been married, not to the situation today.
In intimate relationships, there will always be some ups and downs, and the most important thing is to let the other party know their own heart and adjust the two people's mode of getting along.
Similarly, if you encounter problems, only communication can reach the end of the solution.
Another is respect, each of us has a need to be respected. In our relationship, if there is anything that will affect our feelings, you have to ask my thoughts, not to go it alone.
In fact, Wang Hao is a good father, but not a good companion. When he accepted the child, he completely ignored the feelings of Ai Qing. Perhaps he also tacitly refused to accept it in his heart. By default, the end of their love, but All this is unfair to Ai.
"Dear Devotion" is not a simple sweet drama. The truth about love is more worthy of our consideration.
The three summed up above: the original family decides the concept of love, the woman will have a greater chance of happiness, the importance of respect and communication in love, I hope you can be inspired.
Love is the most important lesson in life. In this homework, love is the other side, and cultivation is actually our own
