It was April, when it was time to enter the university and find a job and a new relationship. This time, I will introduce the main points and measures that often cause trouble when creating a new relationship.
"I feel that I can't get along with my neighbors."
When living in a new environment begins, the voice of people who speak near you becomes anxious. For example, in a new employee's entrance ceremony or training, someone who knows a small face may start talking, or someone who meets at the venue may start talking. When I started this conversation in the next seat, "I want to know if I feel that I can't get along?" "Why can't I say it" "I feel that I can't get along" and think about things, and may become anxious.But in fact, most people who talk next to you don't care about you at all. It's just talking to another person for some minor reason, such as "Because my seat and next door" and "Because I have eyes" instead of "Let's stop talking because it's hard to talk."If you start talking to someone next to you, you will find that they don't remember your impression before starting the conversation. Like this, there are a lot of things that I care about, but not really. If you are brave and try to say it, it will create a new relationship.
Speaking of things, you are a very good person and a common experience.
"If you talk, will you bother?"
When you find colleagues, old people, classmates, etc. in front of you, it may not be that you are just hanging out without doing anything. If you are a company, you will always do some work. If you are at school, you may talk to other students. At that time, the idea that emerged after that was the idea. "Now, it might be annoying to say it?"If this is the case, ask yourself, "Well, if you talk to me, do you think this will be annoying?" For example, when organizing on the desktop, you may be asked: "Sorry, what do I ask you to ask? Question?" When I talked to someone, when I asked: "I'm sorry, I want to go a little more?" Do you think "I am a good friend now"? Many people try to respond to their voices when they are called, and they don't think they are annoying. Changing your position and thinking will give you some courage.
“Even if you speak, it will be ignored/will be ignored”
I greeted, but did not come back. "I am sorry," "I asked a little," but I think everyone has a neglected experience. If you have such an experience, you will think that when you want to talk, you will say, "If you ignore it, I will hate it."However, we did not try to ignore the other party that was actually asked, and in most cases we did not know. For example, when I am busy with work, I think even if I am walking. In this case, you may not even notice that you have been summoned. Similarly, if you are working, you will focus on the task ahead. If you are talking to someone, you will not notice that you have already said it.Therefore, when talking to the other party, it is very important to say "know the other party." In order to know, the voice and size, adjust the eyes of each other, it will be the first one in such as "Hello", "I'm sorry" to attract attention to yourself becomes very important.
"I feel nervous before I speak."
Before I say it, I will feel nervous in various ways. In addition to what I have seen so far, tension can occur in a variety of ways. For example, there may be various fears and tensions, such as "What if you are a terrible person?", "What if you are rejected?" No.I know that before I say this, I think I have a lot of anxiety. If you have such anxiety, you are likely to be aware of those who are willing to talk and cannot speak after 3 seconds.When thinking, "after the simulation..." and "organizing what you said...after" will only cause anxiety. In an actual conversation, even if it is very or not organized, it will be transmitted. If you are brave and increase your voice, the tension before you speak will gradually weaken.
Summary
The first step in building a new relationship is to say it. If you say a lot, you can find someone who can get along with you. Keep in mind the tips here to help build new relationships.
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