A Marriage Doomed To Fail.

Deciding who you’ll marry is a huge decision. Sometimes people “just know” when they are with that person…but others are less sure. And being unsure is totally normal! But if you fall into that category and are trying to figure things out, Abeg listen to your heart 1st. Loving your partner is different from wanting to live with them FOREVER.

Some couples weren’t meant to be married to each other. Ever!
That’s a cold, harsh thing to say, right? but I think it’s important for dates to realize that the simple act of dating for a long time doesn’t actually mean they have to get married, but if they are really meant to be together FOREVER they will.

If you are considering marriage, you need to be sure that there are no signs you shouldn’t marry him/her in the picture.

Ask yourself this questions?

• · Do I really want this?
• · Does my partner really love me that much?
• · Can he/she stay with me for better for worst?
• · Etc…..

If you’re telling yourself that everything will be different once you’re married— thinking that he or she will finally start prioritizing you over his friends, support your career goals, be able to hold down a job, etc. lol—ask yourself whether you could be with him/her, exactly as he or she is now, for the rest of your life. Because a wedding isn’t a magic wand that makes people grow up, no be so.

Growing and changing is a natural part of life, but sometimes those changes feel forced and wrong. You shouldn’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not to keep your partner happy. Similarly, if you find that you don’t like how you behave when you’re with him/her (you feel insecure and needy, you’re always irritable, etc.), it might be a bad sign biko.

If you are considering marriage to save your #relationship or to improve your financial status, you are doing it for all of the wrong reasons my dear.

Dating someone who is a polar opposite of you is a learning experience, it is something fun and fresh.

However going into marriage with someone who doesn't share your goals and dreams can be a little difficult.

For example if he doesn't plan on having children and you do, you might have a problem figuring out where to go from there.

You don't want to give up your dream of having a big family just because it is not something that he is comfortable with.

Having different expectations in your future can quickly drain a relationship, Make sure you and your partner know what the other wants and be prepared to compromise. ‘Give each other space and try not to take your partner for granted, That way you are more likely to be able to support each other.

Finally, based on interviews and verifications We can’t tell you how many divorced people that have told us, “I remember thinking on my wedding day, Well, I can always get a divorce.”

Make I tell you for the last time if your gut is telling you this person isn’t your person, you should listen because it’s a life time matter so avoid any mistake (had I known) comes last. Be Wise.