Deciding who you’ll marry is a huge decision. Sometimes people “just know” when they are with that person…but others are less sure. And being unsure is totally normal! But if you fall into that category and are trying to figure things out, Abeg listen to your heart 1st. Loving your partner is different from wanting to live with them FOREVER.

Some couples weren’t meant to be married to each other. Ever!

There is something that most people do not know about relationships. First, a relationship is not just some sought friendship- there is some bonding involved. Secondly, it is not every woman or man out there that can make the best partner. What do I mean? You need to understand some of the things you can do to make the right selection of a partner. The last thing you want is

Are you a foreigner married to or may be dating a Nigerian man? Are you planning to move back to Nigeria with your newly wedded charming Nigerian husband ? If yes,there are some important stuffs you should know beforehand.Before I continue, I will like to state that you disregard the title of this article (pun intended). This isn’t a manual, else it makes it sound like a Nigerian man is a machine.

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This details certain qualities a woman of marriageable age needs to develop in order to make her desirable for a life partner.

Call it green light, red light or whatever you like, there are certain qualities men find irresistible in women. It’s therefore no surprise that some ladies date a man for just one month and before you know it, the man proposes, while others keep going from one man to the other and they keep “dumping” you.

We complain a lot about what men do to us the weaker vessels and wonder countlessly if they can get any better, even if just for a moment. Well ladies, we aren’t the only ones with emotions running high, sometimes.

Sometimes, the guys have their own pound of flesh to retrieve no matter how romantic we think they should be. They have a few things they’d rather the women folk stopped or at least put a leash on. So far, I have been able to collate four common but pressing ones.

Hard to get. The age long myth that says that if you don’t play hard to get he wouldn’t appreciate you existence, might be wearing thin, don’t you think? What with a new springing generation of darers who would rather take th bull by the horn and approach a guy themselves without waiting to be approached much less, feign disinterest when approached. Men are fast embracing this new regime [even if it because it makes it easier for them] because no one likes to expend that much energy anymore. It is bad enough they are coming to the realisation the belief that if indeed you are playing hard to get, it means you really aren’t interested and then the next second you’re wondering why he moved on so fast, thinking he probably did because he wasn’t as interested as well. See where this is going?

Venting/irritation. We humans have a tendency to unleash, at the barest opportunity, our anger and frustrations on whoever is in sight to receive it without for our five minute madness, realising this person has absolutely nothing to do with it. This was a common complain amongst men. Now they don’t mind helping you out and holding onto you when you’re angry, mad or irritated, there just won’t mind if you do it with a little less vendetta towards them like they are the actual cause of it.

Leading them on. It is simple. Men and women don’t like to be led on. Especially if there isn’t going to be anything involved after the chase. Guys do not like when they see a green light where is clearly a red light but you’re flashing an amber ‘maybe’ light.

Sex battles. As funny as this sounds, it isn’t exactly sexy when they have to fight for sex. Especially when you’re already in the relationship and you forget that the chasing days are over and become adamant during sexual intercourse. You remind them of the chasing period and in as much as that was done for the love of you, it can be a huge turnoff.

So a male friend and I were arguing on a guy’s perspective to cheating and he had some insightful points, which of course is till don’t agree with is the justification to the act, but he did shed some light on what most of us girls have left to our imaginations. So before you begin, first start by asking yourself…

Have you ever cheated on a partner?

Hey you guys, have you ever wondered how to get the girl of your dreams. But she really didn't know you were alive? You got what it takes with just a lil tip and techniques, all you need is self confidence (just gather the moral)  This article will tell you more.Detailed instructions after the jump mo

 

 Steps

1. Learn about what she likes.
   • When you see that girl and you try and talk to her don't drop out and start talking stuff that she does not care about.
   • You need to talk about stuff you both like and stuff you both enjoy, but remember it's all about her.
    
3. Always make sure your mouth smells fresh.
   • Hold mints, gum, or anything else that will keep your mouth fresh for that kiss you will hopefully get (and more) after you read this article.
4. Get her attention.
   
   • When you want something you go after it so no matter what. Keep your head up.
   • Lightly bump her by mistake and as soon as you bump her say, "I'm sorry, I didn't mean to bump you."
   • Hopefully she will think that you are nice so tell her that she looks very nice that day then tell her your name (1st and last).
5. Make the move.
   • Now it is time for you to make your big move. Once you guys talk and are good friends ask her for her favourite color. If she asks you that same thing after you, then answer and go for it.
   • Ask her if she likes you. If she says yes, then you have a new girlfriend.

Men, is your dating life DOA? Not to worry! These top-secret tips from NYC's #1 professional matchmaker will put the "life" back in your love:

1) Don't be a douchebag! Yes, it's true that ladies loooove douchebags - but they love non-douchebags even more! You can get plenty of trashy booty by acting like a jerk, but if you're interested in some seriously high-class love, acting like a decent, considerate guy will skyrocket your love life to a new dimension.
2) Expand your horizons! Have you gotten complacent about dating women of your own race? There's a whole world of color out there - why not incorporate some into your dating life? In other words, try a new hue!
3) Pick up that phone! Texting's fun, and it can get pretty steamy - but if you really want to blow a woman out of the water, pick up the phone, call her and have a conversation. It'll make your sexting that much hotter…
4) Go veg! Everyone knows the HOTTEST ladies these days are vegan or vegetarian, and they want veg men! If you go veg, you'll have the corner on the hot veg chick market - milk it! (Or, if you opt for vegan, soy milk it!)
5) Fix things! Or at least pretend you can. Nothing turns on a woman like a handy man.
6) NO cross-dressing - ever! No matter how hipster or artsy your lady is, no matter how much she says she's into pushing gender boundaries, your woman does not want you in a dress. Not even on Halloween!
7) NO crying (at least in the beginning)! Yes, women like emotionally sensitive guys. But too much too fast is a turn-off, so hold back on the tears for at least the first three dates.
8) NO mooching! In other words, don't hit the restroom when the check comes. Ever!
9) NO mock turtlenecks! And you guessed it - not even on Halloween.
And last but NOT least - pay close attention, guys…
10) Go on a date! You got her number, your sexting's been amazing, you've even chatted with her on the phone. Great stuff - but THAT'S NOT DATING! How to effect an actual date experience? Set a specific day, a specific time, a specific place - and show up. That's a date! You'll end up leaps and bounds ahead of all those other guys who are clueless about the "dating" part of dating. And you'll find that dates can actually be the most rewarding part of the dating adventure.

Flirting's a language - and just like with any other language, no one's born a fluent flirt. If you want to know how to flirt like a pro, you've got to learn the signs. Follow these flirt tips and practice till you're an expert flirt.

1. Choose Your Targets

You don't have to have a crush on someone in order to flirt. Practice flirting with random people you see every day - people who might not even be on your dating radar - on order to hone your skills. That way, you'll have some flirting experience under your belt when you approach the people who really matter.

If you've developed feelings for one of your best friends, you know how scary it can be. Should you tell your friend you're in love with them? What happens if they don't love you back - will you lose their friendship? Get the answers to these questions and more. (The only answer I don't have is whether or not they like you back. You'll have to find that one out on your own.)

1. Make Sure You're Sure You're Really in Love

There's a difference between having a passing crush on someone and truly being in love. For instance, if:

• You're on the rebound from another relationship
• Your friend is on the rebound and acting vulnerable
• Your friend got a new style and has been looking extra cute lately
• Your friend just started dating someone, and they're spending less time with you
• Someone said that you and your friend would make a cute couple
• You and your friend became close only recently

Then you might just have a temporary crush on your friend. Give it a couple of weeks and see if those feelings disappear on their own. If they do, you'll be relieved that you never said anything.

2. If It's the Real Deal, Is It the Right Time?

Even if you're sure of your feelings, you shouldn't necessarily reveal them to your friend. Don't drop the bomb under any of these circumstances:

• If they're dating someone, it would be unfair to sabotage their relationship by sharing your feelings.
• If you're in a relationship, you need to decide who's more important to you. If your friend wins out, then you should break up with your bf/gf no matter what. It's not fair to date someone who's only 2nd place in your heart.
• If your friend's going through some major stress - like if they've got a big game or test coming up, or if they're coping with the death of a relative - hold your tongue until their stress has passed. It would be selfish of you to throw them one more bowling pin to juggle.

3. How to Tell Your Friend That You Love Them

So you've decided that you really do love your friend and that the timing is right. Here are some tips on how to tell them the big news:

• Don't just blurt it out in the middle of a conversation. Plan on a time and place where you can be alone with them, face to face.
• Look in their eyes and drop the bomb with a short statement like, "I'm beginning to like you as more than a friend."
• Don't use the word "love," even if you're sure you're feeling it. "Love" is a big word, and you might scare your friend off whether they have feelings for you or not.
• Keep your tone upbeat. If you act like you're revealing something horrible to them, they might react like it's bad news.

4. What If They Don't Like You Back?

By having this conversation with your friend, you've made the decision that it's more important to reveal your feelings than to live a lie by hiding them any longer. Even if your friend doesn't like you back, you're still better off than you were before, because now you know how they feel about you. (I know, I know...it doesn't feel like much of a consolation prize.)

Your friend is probably hoping that you'll both be able to forget this conversation ever happened and go back to being friends. That might not be so easy for you. If it hurts too much to hang around your friend, take some time to get over your feelings. You might be able to be friends again down the road, but don't rush it. Do what's best for your heart.

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